Being Based Relating

Applying the higher-consciousness of mindfulness in daily relationships


“Humanity is under great pressure to evolve because it is our only chance of survival as a race.  This will affect every aspect of your life and close relationships in particular… Your current state of consciousness is the best indicator of your future… Being spiritual has nothing to do with what you believe and everything to do with your state of consciousness.” – Eckhart Tolle

We are at an inflection point. This is a time of great collective distress, as well as being a time of great emerging potential. There is an expansion of human consciousness occurring to meet these challenges and opportunities.

All relationships are rapidly becoming the leading-edge domain to support, and participate with this unprecedented evolution of humankind.

Relationships informed and inspired by the next stages of human consciousnesses are needed now more than ever before. 



“Relationship is the quick path.” – Chogyam Trungpa
“There is almost a sensual longing for communion with others who have a large vision. The immense fulfillment of the friendship between those engaged in furthering the evolution of consciousness has a quality impossible to describe.” – Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
“It’s the quality of your close relationships that matters.”   – From a 75-year Harvard Study on leading a fulfilling life
(From the link: What the study revealed is this: The 1 secret to leading a fulfilling life doesn’t depend on your 401(k), whether you have a huge group of friends and go out every weekend, or if you’re in a “perfect” romantic relationship (as if those exist). It’s the quality of the relationships–how much vulnerability and depth exists within them; how safe you feel sharing with one another; the extent to which you can relax and be seen for who you truly are, and truly see another.)



 BeingBasedRelating meets these challenges and opportunities providing access to resources and practices to relate more from Presence or Being; and less from unexamined ego/mind and habitual personality.

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Four Stages of Intimate Relationships”

Excerpt from the White Paper: This stage marks an emergence of a “jump” or “shift” in the overall consciousness, and awareness of orienting around “why” we are drawn to sexual-love. Sex, love, and relationship from this stage forward is, increasingly, much more intentional, less habitual. Such shared intention can result in more spontaneous joy; and when in distress, being more resourced and resilient.

Although at this stage we know ourselves to be beyond previous stages, we do not look down upon them and do not even want to, for we are choosing increasing witnessing and intimacy with all our attributes, however dark or immature or unappealing. We recognize that all the qualities that characterize earlier stages of relational intimacy are, to whatever degree, part of us. We cultivate radical acceptance of ourselves, the most potent catalyst to allow for change and growth..

We are “getting” we are not our attachment-styles, unconscious behaviors, nor even our personalities. Accessing a more authentic Being-based sense-of-self, whether through consciousness work or spiritual work becomes part of our world-view. The journey of awakening, and our relationship to a larger coherent field of spiritual reality all begin to matter. Subtle ongoing and positive influences on our day-to-day sense-of-self increasingly arise without effort.

We see we are growing beyond the, “What’s in it for me,” drives, we long for more unification; and we become quite interested in what’s good for our partner, and for the relationship. A higher aspect of intimacy not bound by behavior or role-playing reveals itself. And, increasingly freed from the energy consuming aspects of behavior and role-playing; the innate life giving energies of sexual-love can flourish.

Partnering at this stage is driven to connect Being-to-Being, to share Presence. Intimacy can thrive supported by personal responsibility. Sexual-love increasingly becomes a tool to support awakening. Non-monogamous urges, when they show-up, simply matter as truth. There is simply no interest in withholding information. Betrayal has all but ceased to exist; the motivations to withhold, so common at previous stages, holds little or no attention. Far and away from agreements or virtues, what matters is alignment with reality. Truth, trust, and transparency are not held as values, they are what hold our attention and what interests us.

Long term unions here are powerful and life-changing as both increased sexual capacity and higher-levels of consciousness and heartfelt love are awoken and stabilized. The “connection” between sexuality and spirituality adds lasting vitality and aliveness to the experience of sex and love.

If lasting relationship upset does occur, maintaining mutual regard and mutual respect are big priorities. Consciously “de-coupling” with a huge emphasis on compassion (without care-taking) can be a natural choice and a place of shared power and care.

About BeingBasedRelating

Coaching, counseling, practices, and courses focus on developing an evolving self based more in awareness, immediate insight, and direct experience; and less in conditioned egoic patterns.

 Such adult-development fuels growth oriented approaches to address life’s most significant challenges, as well as offering reliable paths to realize our deepest longings and aspirations.

  • Family Systems and conflict resolution

  • Parenting & co-parenting & single parenting

  • Intimate relationship & attachment skills (traditional, non-traditional, LGBTQ, & ethical non-monogamy)

  • Conscious de-coupling & divorce

  • Deepening a sense of community and friendships

  • Workplace emotional intelligence (EQ) – leadership and team building

 Methodologies apply proven transpersonal resources and practices (“trans”personal – includes and transcends the personal sense-of-self).

At once artful and potent: Access to more Presence or Being is core to developing increased emotional intelligence (EQ) and opening-up to self-actualization.

This is a sense-of-self imbued with responsive situational awareness (healthy masculine), open-hearted emotional availability (healthy feminine), more ease with complexity and multiple perspectives, as well as steadiness in resolving conflict.

In the workplace or external world: this broader sense-of-self is creative, resourceful, and resilient… On a personal level: such relational competence is healing and restorative, as well as a root source of profound well-being in our shared internal worlds of heartfelt love with family, friends, and partners.

BeingBasedRelating offers individual or couples counseling & coaching, business & corporate EQ team coaching, online courses, and presentations.

BeingBasedRelating is hosted by Chris Menné MA Transpersonal Psychology.

Rates, and methods applied are available here.



 Schedule a free no obligation inquiry/consultation with Chris here.

To experience aspects of relating more from Presence and Being and less from ego in a group setting, BeingBasedRelating also hosts, “Sharing the Witness.” Regularly scheduled Conscious Relating Practice Groups held in person and online.